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Dear Reader

 

Is it sex addiction?  Porn addiction, cybersex, hypersexual disorder, out-of-control sexual behaviour, compulsive masturbation, exhibitionism, voyeurism… I think, because you're reading this, you have concerns.  I want you to know, I'm ready to hear them and work with you – calmly, professionally, respectfully.

 

Sometimes, people find themselves trapped in compulsive acting-out behaviours.  They know that something has to change, but they can't even picture it.  They can't ask for help, because they can't imagine telling anyone their secrets.  They can't believe a safe place exists.  They are isolated, dis-connected, hopeless.  They feel shame, they are in pain, they are fearful. Their family lives, their careers, their finances, their health and all their relationships are at risk.  Maybe nobody knows, maybe they’ve been “caught”, maybe their job or marriage is on the line, maybe the law is involved.  They have tried to stop, promised themselves that this is the last time, only to fail.  When they feel the weight of all this, they act out again (visit a sex-worker, spend another  day lost online, etc.) - get brief relief from their oppressive feelings...   and the cycle repeats. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

They feel alone, but in reality there are thousands in front of them, and thousands behind, walking down the same foggy road.

 

If this scenario resonates with you, I encourage you to choose  change.  I am specifically trained to treat sex addiction and partner betrayal trauma, using the clinically proven models developed by the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).  After initial testing and assessment, I will walk with you out of the fog and connect you with tools, skills, resources and others who understand.  Your job is to find yourself in recovery;   mine is to use my knowledge to make that journey easier. Your life is difficult, and you deserve help - a professional who will provide a space to hear you with compassion and acceptance, and without shock or judgement. To quote Dr. Patrick Carnes, internationally acclaimed researcher and authority on sex addiction and recovery “Making promises to ourselves does not work.  Telling the truth does. "

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Healing starts the moment we understand this ultimate reality.”

 

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Am I a Sex Addict?

 

Take this brief PATHOS questionnaire

 

Preoccupied

Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?

 

Ashamed

Do you hide some of your sexual behaviour from others?

 

Treatment

Have you ever sought therapy for sexual behaviour you did not like?

 

Hurt others

Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behaviour?

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Out of control

Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?

 

Sad

When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?

 

If you have answered yes to one or more of these questions indicates a need for further assessment.

 

 

 

Questions?  Call for a

free 30-minute consultation:

(604) 754-7629

Sex Addiction Vancouver