Is it sex addiction? Porn addiction, cybersex, hypersexual disorder, out-of-control sexual behaviour, compulsive masturbation, exhibitionism, voyeurism… I think, because you're reading this, you have concerns. I want you to know, I'm ready to hear them and work with you – calmly, professionally, respectfully.
Sometimes, people find themselves trapped in compulsive acting-out behaviours. They know that something has to change, but they can't even picture it. They can't ask for help, because they can't imagine telling anyone their secrets. They can't believe a safe place exists. They are isolated, dis-connected, hopeless. They feel shame, they are in pain, they are fearful. Their family lives, their careers, their finances, their health and all their relationships are at risk. Maybe nobody knows, maybe they’ve been “caught”, maybe their job or marriage is on the line, maybe the law is involved. They have tried to stop, promised themselves that this is the last time, only to fail. When they feel the weight of all this, they act out again (visit a sex-worker, spend another day lost online, etc.) - get brief relief from their oppressive feelings... and the cycle repeats.
They feel alone, but in reality there are thousands in front of them, and thousands behind, walking down the same foggy road.
If this scenario resonates with you, I encourage you to choose change. I am specifically trained to treat sex addiction and partner betrayal trauma, using the clinically proven models developed by the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP). After initial testing and assessment, I will walk with you out of the fog and connect you with tools, skills, resources and others who understand. Your job is to find yourself in recovery; mine is to use my knowledge to make that journey easier. Your life is difficult, and you deserve help - a professional who will provide a space to hear you with compassion and acceptance, and without shock or judgement. To quote Dr. Patrick Carnes, internationally acclaimed researcher and authority on sex addiction and recovery “Making promises to ourselves does not work. Telling the truth does. "
Healing starts the moment we understand this ultimate reality.”
Am I a Sex Addict?
Take this brief PATHOS questionnaire
Do you often find yourself preoccupied with sexual thoughts?
Do you hide some of your sexual behaviour from others?
Have you ever sought therapy for sexual behaviour you did not like?
Has anyone been hurt emotionally because of your sexual behaviour?
Out of control
Do you feel controlled by your sexual desire?
When you have sex, do you feel depressed afterwards?
If you have answered yes to one or more of these questions indicates a need for further assessment.
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Sex Addiction Vancouver
"Regular sex just doesn’t do it for me anymore. It’s got to be bizarre or forbidden or ‘out of the box.’ I arrive at work in an erotic haze. Women around me are all objects of sexual fantasy. I’m distracted; not focused. If something requires my attention, when real life intrudes and yanks me out of my sexual preoccupation, I get angry."
"I don’t have to concern myself with vulnerability and rejection. This is my controlled pleasure world. This is the ultimate antithesis of the deprivation of my childhood.”